How to set boundaries without shutting people out
Making space for yourself and your relationships.
Illustrative photo: Unsplash
A boundary is not a wall
Good boundaries make expectations clearer. They are not a way to control another person’s response or guarantee that everyone will agree.
Be specific and kind
Rather than a long explanation, say what you can do: “I’m available tomorrow, not tonight.” Consistency is often more helpful than finding the perfect wording.
Expect some discomfort
New patterns may feel awkward before they become familiar. Therapy can support you in navigating that discomfort while respecting your relationships.
These reflections are educational and not a diagnosis or substitute for professional care.
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